There are those other countless cases when an attraction remains, and a former couple opts to maintain some of the more intimate benefits . . .
So, the question was posed to me recently of whether men and women who are former lovers and/or partners, can ever truly be just friends after a break-up. I must say that I find this subject intriguing because I can speak to it from first-hand experience. It reminds me of the hilarious scene in the Eddie Murphy film, Boomerang, where actors Halle Berry and David Alan Grier openly declare to their dinner guests, and then emphatically repeat that they’re “just friends!”
Of course, my first inclination is to say yes, absolutely. A former girl or guy friend can certainly become one of your closest friends because hey, who knows you better? Who knows your strengths and vulnerabilities, your likes and...
My humble recommendation is that you take an inward look at yourself, and see what it is about you that may be attracting people to you sexually . . .
Dear Ron,
“Hello. Lately, I have been coming across many couples that want to have three-ways with me. I have been approached at work. I have been approached when I am alone shopping at the mall and I have been approached at the gym—and I am always approached by the woman in the relationship! What are your thoughts on this subject matter? I don't feel comfortable with it, but I have many friends that do engage, and who are willing to get down with these married couples. Is this what it takes to keep the spark alive in the relationship these days?”
Dear Reader,
As a man, I think I’d find it flattering to be asked...
As of 2010, more than 90 percent of us still date and marry each other . . .
Dear Ron:
“How do you feel about black men exclusively dating white women, or women of other races—ONLY? I am a vibrant, 40 year-old woman, and in the past black men who exclusively dated outside of their race never really bothered me. But as I have gotten older, it bugs me to death. I find myself getting angry and thinking what the hell is wrong with this ‘brotha’?.’ I think it frustrates me more now because I am noticing many beautiful black women with no man, and lots of love to give, and these men would prefer to be with a white woman. I just don't get it. Don't get me wrong, I don't have anything against white women, or women of other races, but why can't they...
The dilemma we’re most often confronted with of late is that many black women seem disinterested in both matrimony, and the “average” man . . .
Dear Ron:
“Does the average man want to get married any more? It doesn't seem like it. It seems as if all men want to do is have sex with as many women as possible, and spread their seed around. Plus, I’ve been coming across so many men with sexually transmitted diseases these days, and they don't even seem to care that they have them. They disclose it to me, and then think that I should be happy that they told me about it. What's up with that, Ron? Do men today want to get married and cultivate a loving relationship anymore? If so, what are they waiting for? They’re getting older, too, you know.”
Dear Reader,
Sure,...
