Women are never as good about breakups or rejections from men of any kind as men are. True, I've heard numerous times how honesty is one of the foremost desirable traits a woman needs in a man...yet, I've found just as many times when it comes to the point in a relationship to stop with the sugar-coating so to speak and get down to brass tacks they're attitude makes a 360 degree turnaround! Which is why many times guys would much rather just continue with the 'lies' and 'games'. Thats the way 'she' wants it. Until of course it's her turn to bring you down to reality...which of course is no shock to you bcuz you've been awaiting her arrival!! A brief testimony: I just got out of a 5 year relationship in December. Her main reason is that she could not accept the lying any longer. I tried to explain that @ our core, we were like the original odd couple, and that what was wrong in her eyes were okay in mine. So many times I would just lie to her about where I've been among other things just to avoid a senseless meaningless interruption in happiness! What the hell is wrong with that?! I knew i was doing nothing wrong! After awhile even I got sick of the lying. It gets to the point where u realize you're both just wasting valuable time. The bottom line is, guys and gals, that if we can find someone with whom we can be completely honest with from the get go, no smoke n mirrors, no ulterior motives, and still be accepted, then and only then will true happiness be on the horizon...how do we do this? Take a page from your grandparents' book and actually have more than one date with a person before getting into bed with them. Get to know them, and let them do the same. If you like you got a head start, if not, no harm no foul just move on! And you can sleep easy knowing you didn't make another foolish move by giving it up before getting to know--a move so ass-backwards today, yet so common.
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TheCapriciousDevotee
Apr 21
7:59 AM
Women deserve to know what we are working with and that means, we deserve the truth. If men create facade relationships that they really don\'t want, just to have a woman around when he wants her and then has to lie to maintain it, that is not women not being able to handle to truth. That is just men being cowardly and selfish. There are plenty of women that are okay with open, non-monogamous relationships if the men they are with was honest about wanting them too.
At the core, men lie because they make sexist assumptions about women (as Reginald just did) and women\'s sexuality - denying us our differences and rationality. Not cool. Men could stop lying if they were upfront and honest about their intentions...and the would also probably get more play.
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Leslie
Apr 20
4:56 PM
Derrick, don't get it twisted, not all women sit around and cry and need time to regroup, a playa is a playa! Maybe we should schedule dinner together and see who is better at telling the truth. Better yet, let's see who is better at handling the truth! LoL!
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Derrick
Apr 15
6:38 PM
come on you guys, women can't handle the truth and we know it, because men can't either. I had a woman tell me she was dating more men than me and I bounced with the quickness. I think we all want to be number 1. when we find out we are not, it is not a good feeling. the difference bewteen men and women is, men just push on to the next woman. women sit around and cry, need time to regroup and recover. Us men just call the next woman and schedule dinner. LOL
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Suzanne L.
Mar 27
12:31 AM
First, I wanted to say, that I really have enjoyed this IONA magazine Blog Spot, and I am looking forward to reading much more.
Now, on to the question at hand . . . Can Women Handle the Truth? Yes we can! You are talking about a group of people who give birth for crying out loud, who juggle work, kids, cooking, cleaning and sexing you men down at a moments notice, so why on earth would you be so insulting to think that we strong women could and cannot handle the truth. Just the mere thought of all that women have to go through on a daily basis and to think that we can't handle the words coming out of a typical asshole's mouth is ridiculous and stupid.
I think the real question is "Can Men Handle the Truth?" and the answer is a resounding no. You guys are very simple and borderling stupid. When a woman tells you something, you just can't get ot through you thick heads. I am so sick of men trying to push their insecurities on to women.
Get a clue and straighten up.
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Jennifer H.
Mar 20
4:02 PM
I forgot to mention, that I also totally agree with the comment that Mercedes made!
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Jennifer H.
Mar 20
4:00 PM
Ok Reginald, "women prefer to be lied to?" No, Reginald, men have to lie because they are cowards! Pretty much ALL of them Reginald and any other man reading this post, I am talking to YOU! . . . I am so sick and tired of these men doing whatever the heck they want and saying whatever the heck they want and we women falling for it every time. It's just ridiculous and retarded. Men, tell the truth, or stop doing things that you have to lie about. Dumb ass men!
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Peter M.
Mar 20
12:59 PM
What the hell is Reginald talking about??? He is giving men a bad name! I try my best to be honest with every woman that I am dating and I expect the same from the women that I date. I can't believe that he is saying that women can't handle the truth. In my opinion, I think that women can handle the truth more than men can. At one point I was dating a woman who was not honest with me, she was dating another man and I found out when I was at a restaurant hanging out with my buddies. When I approached her and asked her what the hell she was doing, she replied, "what are you talking about?" Excuse me?!? Whatever, so the very next day, she had the nerve to call me and ask where we were going to go for dinner that night. When I brought up the night before and her dating this other guy, she replies, "oh, that." She couldn't think that I was going to be able to handle her dating me and other guys, and guess what? I wasn't, but I was more angry for her NOT telling me and making me look like a stupid idiot to my homeboys. So, as a result, I've learned to tell the truth and to expect the truth in return. Anything less, is just not being honest.
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Tanya
Mar 19
2:40 AM
I am actually friends with Leslie, and we are up reading this IONA magazine Blog together and really enjoying it. I have to say that I don't agree with my friend Leslie, I do believe that at certain points in the relationship people can handle the truth. I appreciate it when a man tells me the truth, because then I know exactly what I am dealing with. I ask that I am allowed a level playing field. If I am not told the rules of the game, then I am unable to make an informed decision.
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Leslie
Mar 19
2:36 AM
I totally agree with Reginald! I don't think that Men or Women can handle the truth. I have found that lying in my relationships has helped them go to the next level. Sorry ladies, but we can't handle the truth!
RRSuave
Jun 02
4:11 PM
Women are never as good about breakups or rejections from men of any kind as men are. True, I've heard numerous times how honesty is one of the foremost desirable traits a woman needs in a man...yet, I've found just as many times when it comes to the point in a relationship to stop with the sugar-coating so to speak and get down to brass tacks they're attitude makes a 360 degree turnaround! Which is why many times guys would much rather just continue with the 'lies' and 'games'. Thats the way 'she' wants it. Until of course it's her turn to bring you down to reality...which of course is no shock to you bcuz you've been awaiting her arrival!! A brief testimony: I just got out of a 5 year relationship in December. Her main reason is that she could not accept the lying any longer. I tried to explain that @ our core, we were like the original odd couple, and that what was wrong in her eyes were okay in mine. So many times I would just lie to her about where I've been among other things just to avoid a senseless meaningless interruption in happiness! What the hell is wrong with that?! I knew i was doing nothing wrong! After awhile even I got sick of the lying. It gets to the point where u realize you're both just wasting valuable time. The bottom line is, guys and gals, that if we can find someone with whom we can be completely honest with from the get go, no smoke n mirrors, no ulterior motives, and still be accepted, then and only then will true happiness be on the horizon...how do we do this? Take a page from your grandparents' book and actually have more than one date with a person before getting into bed with them. Get to know them, and let them do the same. If you like you got a head start, if not, no harm no foul just move on! And you can sleep easy knowing you didn't make another foolish move by giving it up before getting to know--a move so ass-backwards today, yet so common.
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TheCapriciousDevotee
Apr 21
7:59 AM
Women deserve to know what we are working with and that means, we deserve the truth. If men create facade relationships that they really don\'t want, just to have a woman around when he wants her and then has to lie to maintain it, that is not women not being able to handle to truth. That is just men being cowardly and selfish. There are plenty of women that are okay with open, non-monogamous relationships if the men they are with was honest about wanting them too. At the core, men lie because they make sexist assumptions about women (as Reginald just did) and women\'s sexuality - denying us our differences and rationality. Not cool. Men could stop lying if they were upfront and honest about their intentions...and the would also probably get more play.
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Leslie
Apr 20
4:56 PM
Derrick, don't get it twisted, not all women sit around and cry and need time to regroup, a playa is a playa! Maybe we should schedule dinner together and see who is better at telling the truth. Better yet, let's see who is better at handling the truth! LoL!
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Derrick
Apr 15
6:38 PM
come on you guys, women can't handle the truth and we know it, because men can't either. I had a woman tell me she was dating more men than me and I bounced with the quickness. I think we all want to be number 1. when we find out we are not, it is not a good feeling. the difference bewteen men and women is, men just push on to the next woman. women sit around and cry, need time to regroup and recover. Us men just call the next woman and schedule dinner. LOL
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Suzanne L.
Mar 27
12:31 AM
First, I wanted to say, that I really have enjoyed this IONA magazine Blog Spot, and I am looking forward to reading much more. Now, on to the question at hand . . . Can Women Handle the Truth? Yes we can! You are talking about a group of people who give birth for crying out loud, who juggle work, kids, cooking, cleaning and sexing you men down at a moments notice, so why on earth would you be so insulting to think that we strong women could and cannot handle the truth. Just the mere thought of all that women have to go through on a daily basis and to think that we can't handle the words coming out of a typical asshole's mouth is ridiculous and stupid. I think the real question is "Can Men Handle the Truth?" and the answer is a resounding no. You guys are very simple and borderling stupid. When a woman tells you something, you just can't get ot through you thick heads. I am so sick of men trying to push their insecurities on to women. Get a clue and straighten up.
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Jennifer H.
Mar 20
4:02 PM
I forgot to mention, that I also totally agree with the comment that Mercedes made!
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Jennifer H.
Mar 20
4:00 PM
Ok Reginald, "women prefer to be lied to?" No, Reginald, men have to lie because they are cowards! Pretty much ALL of them Reginald and any other man reading this post, I am talking to YOU! . . . I am so sick and tired of these men doing whatever the heck they want and saying whatever the heck they want and we women falling for it every time. It's just ridiculous and retarded. Men, tell the truth, or stop doing things that you have to lie about. Dumb ass men!
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Peter M.
Mar 20
12:59 PM
What the hell is Reginald talking about??? He is giving men a bad name! I try my best to be honest with every woman that I am dating and I expect the same from the women that I date. I can't believe that he is saying that women can't handle the truth. In my opinion, I think that women can handle the truth more than men can. At one point I was dating a woman who was not honest with me, she was dating another man and I found out when I was at a restaurant hanging out with my buddies. When I approached her and asked her what the hell she was doing, she replied, "what are you talking about?" Excuse me?!? Whatever, so the very next day, she had the nerve to call me and ask where we were going to go for dinner that night. When I brought up the night before and her dating this other guy, she replies, "oh, that." She couldn't think that I was going to be able to handle her dating me and other guys, and guess what? I wasn't, but I was more angry for her NOT telling me and making me look like a stupid idiot to my homeboys. So, as a result, I've learned to tell the truth and to expect the truth in return. Anything less, is just not being honest.
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Tanya
Mar 19
2:40 AM
I am actually friends with Leslie, and we are up reading this IONA magazine Blog together and really enjoying it. I have to say that I don't agree with my friend Leslie, I do believe that at certain points in the relationship people can handle the truth. I appreciate it when a man tells me the truth, because then I know exactly what I am dealing with. I ask that I am allowed a level playing field. If I am not told the rules of the game, then I am unable to make an informed decision.
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Leslie
Mar 19
2:36 AM
I totally agree with Reginald! I don't think that Men or Women can handle the truth. I have found that lying in my relationships has helped them go to the next level. Sorry ladies, but we can't handle the truth!
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