Dear Claire,
I am 19 years old and I attend the local junior college in my city. I have had a boyfriend for the past two years and I care for him deeply however, I wouldn't say that I love him. I also have a pretty good girlfriend that I have been friends with for the past six years. We have been through a lot together and I really appreciate and value our friendship but I don't think that she values our friendship as much as I do. I say this because from time to time, she will hit on my boyfriends and try to sleep with them. Just recently she invited my current boyfriend to lunch (without me) and then she invited him back to the apartment, which my girlfriend and I share. From what my boyfriend tells me, they sat together for a while watched TV and talked. Eventually, my girlfriend excused herself, saying that she had to use the bathroom. When she came out of the bathroom, she was dressed only in her bra and panties. My boyfriend say's that nothing happened and that he promptly left. I am inclined to believe my boyfriend since my friend has done this sort of thing before. My question is, what is the best way for me to stop this behavior of hers before it ruins our friendship and should I move out or just not bring my boyfriend over the apartment anymore?
Dear Young Lady,
What kind of friend is that? I will tell you, "no friend at all"! If you can't trust your friend around your boyfriends, then she is not really your friend. Obviously, you value your friendship more than she does and with friends like that who needs enemies? You appear to be a nice person, why not surround yourself with people who are trustworthy? End this friendship, move out and move on.
What do you think IONA readers? Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!
